Posts by Fawn

Holiday Gifts For The Single Woman

Ready or not, the holidays are upon us. That time of year when everyone gets festive, children’s eyes light up, stores get insane, and parking is impossible. The stress seems to increase every year. Andy Williams tells us “It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year.” Put on your smile, everyone. Now pose for the family picture! For a single woman, while it can be a special time with family and friends, it can also be one of the loneliest times of the year. Your TV shows couples snuggling, curling up under plaid blankets, snow falling lightly outside, lighting candles,
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Is Your Childhood Ruining Your Relationships?

“Hot dogs. I can’t tell you how many I ate as a child,” my friend remarked. “When I was little, I always, always ordered the cheapest thing on the menu when our family of five went out to eat. I would scan the menu and invariably order a hot dog, the least expensive thing on the menu.” “Why did you do that?” I asked. “I must have been afraid about money. I remember that I didn’t want to cost my family anything.” “Can you see how that fear has carried into your relationships?” “Hummmm. Good question.” My friend was having
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The Love Letter: A Personal Note On My Anniversary

Aloha! As you read this, I am in Kauai enjoying a delicious anniversary trip with my husband Steve. We’re celebrating fifteen years of marriage this month. We can’t believe how quickly that time as flown by. As I think about it, I’m so very grateful for every day, every minute we get to spend together. Steve recently assisted me in one of my workshops. One consistent comment I heard from the participants was how much they enjoyed seeing the sweet love and chemistry between us, especially after fifteen years of marriage! It gave them hope that there are happy endings
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Is He Your Heroin?

Dear Single, Beautiful, Powerful, Woman: It was an honest but rather scary admission. “He is like heroin to me,” she said again and again. I shuddered inside but was glad at what she was finally seeing. For some time, the symptoms had shown up like flashing neon signs in her language and behavior. “He’s been under so much stress.” Some of her ongoing excuses for his self-indulgent behavior. “I still miss him. His good side. ” Good side? He routinely abused her physically and mentally for years. “I am pretty sure that I am co-dependent!” You think?! “Help!” It’s on
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Six Keys to Finding Love at Any Age

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman, My dear, amazing friend, Hera, is seventy-one years old. Yet, in her heart, she is about twenty-five! Married for two years now to Charlie, she’s going for everything that life has to offer. Hera has come alive! In my last Love Letter to you, Hera spoke candidly about her doubts regarding love. Being at an age when many unmarried women would have resigned themselves to staying single, she talked about finding love. As we revisited her story, I could not help but celebrate and notice a few things about her journey that I think we can
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Can You Find REAL Love On Line?

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman, I’d like to introduce you to one of my BFFs, Hera. When Hera moved from California to Maine fifteen years ago, many of us were worried about her. In her mid fifties, she quit her successful graphic design job at a leading niche publishing company, put her things in storage and, in her little Miata, headed to the East Coast to start a new life. She found her new home in a small artists community on the coast of Maine and, as Hera has done since the day we met, she dove in wholeheartedly. She
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How to Compete with the “Beautiful People”

Dear Beautiful Powerful Single Woman, Does this sound familiar? Tonight is the night! You have made up your mind. You are going to that local meet-up mixer. Yes! You are putting traction into finding your great guy. Now! Yahoo! You know he is out there somewhere, looking for someone just like you. Your hair looks great. The new outfit is so perfect. You are excited. Hopeful. Expectant And…then you open the door to the restaurant. OMG. The place is crowded with men and women, mostly women. Without warning, your heart starts sinking to the bottom of your new red shoes.
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How to Become a Star

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman: Want to know a little secret? My husband, Steve and I are devoted fans of “American Idol.” It is the one television show that we watch rather religiously. No matter the demands on our time, on Wednesday nights, you will find the two of us parked, ready and waiting, on the couch, with Wallace, knowing the routine so well, snoozing away at our feet. Yes. I confess it’s true. We’re completely hooked. And for good reasons. The show’s three judges, Keith Urban, Jennifer Lopez, and Harry Connick, Jr., are among the best encouragers I have
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Respect Yourself

Don’t compromise yourself. You’re all you’ve got. — Betty Ford The woman whose husband abandoned her and their children and their debts for a young hottie and moved out of state with no forwarding address…. …has struggled To find her own two feet. To stand on her own Oh to be rescued! What a powerful compelling temptation Only to discover That rescuers need rescuing themselves. Stop the madness. Stop Breathe Find your soul Give yourself time to grieve To heal To discover your own heart. You are stronger than you think. Your old life is gone. It will never come
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Mr. Right?

When I was in my early twenties, I was in a relationship with a young man about my age. We were in the same church and were both active in the arts ministry. He was a musician, I was a dancer. He expressed an interest in me, I thought he was a really great guy, but a bit nerdy…  he didn’t fit my perception of the guy I was “supposed” to end up with. However, he was fabulous best-friend material. So we decided to become friends, and to prove the world wrong that a guy and a girl couldn’t be
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