Are you waiting to be chosen?

Dear Beautiful Powerful Single Woman, Are you The Chooser in your relationships? Or do you wait and go with whomever shows up? Relationship expert David Steele writes, “Choosers know what they want and how to get it. Choosers take responsibility for what happens and know that they are in charge of their lives. Being a Chooser takes a certain amount of confidence and effort, but anyone can be one! Finding the love of your life is not about hoping to be picked. You need to know yourself so that you can be The Chooser, rather than waiting to be chosen.
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Impossible Love: A Single-Mom’s Story

Dear Beautiful Powerful Single Professional Woman, I have some wonderful news to share with you. My client is engaged! I’m celebrating, popping the Champagne, and doing the happy dance. She asked me not to share her engagement picture with you, but I have it posted on my bulletin board above my desk. The joy on both their faces is palpable. My dear client’s journey has not been easy. When she came to me her self-worth was very low. She was tired of being tired. For seven years she had been in separation limbo between marriage and divorce, was raising two
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The Secrets to Understanding Emotional Eating

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman, As a single woman, do you find it challenging to manage your emotions, your diet, your health, and maintain a positive body image when you’re by yourself? If so, you’re going to love this bit of compassionate advice from my friend and colleague, Kim McLaughlin. Do you ever find that you eat more than you planned? Do you eat until you feel stuffed? Do you try diet after diet only to ultimately gain weight back?  This might begin to make you think that there is something wrong with you and that you are doomed to
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Is It Selfish To Go After What You Want?

I hope you are enjoying a beautiful spring weekend. If you celebrate Holy Week, I wish you a joyous Easter. This is my favorite time of year. The buds are coming out on the trees, the wisteria in the back yard is blooming, the days are getting longer, the hills around me are bright green, and I’m shaking out my musty self and getting back outside. Sunshine! Yes! In this season of new beginnings, I’ve been having so much fun hosting my very first on-line learning event, Single And Strong: The Single Professional Women’s Guide To Getting What You Want
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A Single Woman in a Married Man’s World

Lately I’ve been reminiscing on the unique challenges I faced as a single professional woman.  Teaching in a small private faith-based school, I made 1/3 the salary of my married male counterpart. I spoke up about it, but the argument from the all-male administration was that he made more because he had a family to support. At that time I had not yet developed the internal fortitude to effectively stand up for myself and my value. I didn’t yet know how to use my voice and to be heard. I ended up with serious financial problems, debt to the IRS,
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Celebrate with me!

I’m celebrating today! Please celebrate with me! One of my former clients has finally found love with a man who matches her values, respects, and loves her. This was not an easy journey for her. She had some major obstacles to overcome, both internal and external. But she had the courage to say YES to the journey, to stay with it when it got tough, and to hold on to hope that as she cleared away those obstacles, one by one, love would find its way to her. And it did. Woo Hoo!! Last week, I received this very sweet
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My Valentine to You

If your childhood was anything like mine, February 14th was utterly and absolutely fun. It was a day filled with little cards in crisp white envelopes, cupcakes with a decadent amount of frosting and those tiny heart-shaped candies, the ones with the words, “Love You,” “Hugs” and “Be Mine” on top. As a child, Valentine’s Day had something for everyone. Mom. Dad. Siblings. Teacher. The classroom. Even that freckled-face boy who teased you way too much because (yeah) he kind-of, sort-of liked you. But we are no longer children, are we? Alas. No. We have grown up and life looks
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Have You Settled For A BTN Relationship?

I’ve been enjoying and relating to the book, If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? by Susan Page. She talks about the things that we do to sabotage our potential for creating real lasting intimate love. (I have an opportunity for you at the end of this letter, so read on!) For some – for various reasons – relationships of any kind are elusive. We’ll cover that in another letter, but today I want to talk about BTN relationships. BTN stands for Better Than Nothing. Boy, can I relate to this one! Can you? It was like, wow,
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My Wish For You

Just a quick little Love Letter to you to let you know that during this busy crazy season, I’m thinking of you. I hope that you have extra grace for your family and friends. I hope that you will go into your holiday with a commitment to love those who are near you – even the difficult ones. And that in so doing you will be giving yourself the greatest gift of all – a heart of love. Give and it shall be given unto you. Sometimes the holidays can be difficult and lonely and disappointing. Yep. There’s no getting
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What Are You Thankful For?

It’s almost Thanksgiving! So – do you have plans? I hope you have connected with friends or family and will share a delicious meal and give thanks. If you haven’t yet made that connection, it’s not too late. If you don’t want to be alone on Thanksgiving, reach out to someone else who is alone, and create your own feast. Thanksgiving has become my favorite holiday. It just about being together. There’s no specific politics or religion attached. It’s the only holiday that is centered around one idea – that we are blessed. That we have much to be thankful
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