Holiday Gifts For The Single Woman

Ready or not, the holidays are upon us. That time of year when everyone gets festive, children’s eyes light up, stores get insane, and parking is impossible. The stress seems to increase every year. Andy Williams tells us “It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year.” Put on your smile, everyone. Now pose for the family picture! For a single woman, while it can be a special time with family and friends, it can also be one of the loneliest times of the year. Your TV shows couples snuggling, curling up under plaid blankets, snow falling lightly outside, lighting candles,
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Is Your Childhood Ruining Your Relationships?

“Hot dogs. I can’t tell you how many I ate as a child,” my friend remarked. “When I was little, I always, always ordered the cheapest thing on the menu when our family of five went out to eat. I would scan the menu and invariably order a hot dog, the least expensive thing on the menu.” “Why did you do that?” I asked. “I must have been afraid about money. I remember that I didn’t want to cost my family anything.” “Can you see how that fear has carried into your relationships?” “Hummmm. Good question.” My friend was having
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The Love Letter: A Personal Note On My Anniversary

Aloha! As you read this, I am in Kauai enjoying a delicious anniversary trip with my husband Steve. We’re celebrating fifteen years of marriage this month. We can’t believe how quickly that time as flown by. As I think about it, I’m so very grateful for every day, every minute we get to spend together. Steve recently assisted me in one of my workshops. One consistent comment I heard from the participants was how much they enjoyed seeing the sweet love and chemistry between us, especially after fifteen years of marriage! It gave them hope that there are happy endings
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4 Steps To A Healthy Intimate Relationship

“Well,” the words were said harshly to her, “people (meaning you) should read the directions.” Hers was not a happy childhood. No matter what my client did as a child, she was continually criticized, even for the simple act of asking for directions. Her father was a volatile, passive-aggressive alcoholic. Her mother was co-dependent. Right from the start, my client learned to survive the childhood atmosphere of put-down and appeasement by being the peacemaker in the household. When she did, and everyone seemed happy, then she felt safe. No wonder that, as an adult, she was highly skilled with anticipating
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Who’s The Queen in Your Castle?

“Now that’s creative!” I said. One of my clients had sent me a picture of her new little cast of characters – a delightful set of troll dolls, all shapes and sizes, with wild multicolored hair on the top of their heads. There they were. Herself as the Princess. Of course, the handsome Knight. Her mother, the Queen. Her son, the Young Prince. The Joker and, in bright red, the Devil. Along with a few others yet to be cast. My client was doing great on a homework assignment where, together, we took inventory of who or what was living
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Is It Fear or Is It Love?

If I could drag one thing out of its dark, sinister closet, it would be FEAR. Yes. Fear. I work with many dynamic and wonderful women from a variety of backgrounds. No matter who they are, they must ultimately face the fears that have been slaughtering their dreams and poisoning their relationships. Fear. Yes. It’s part of being human but, because we are human, we can choose to bring it into the light. With insight, support and courage, we can remove fear’s choke-hold on our lives. Many people believe the mistaken notion that hate is the opposite of love. Nope.
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9 Questions to Answer Before Going Forward

Our conversation went something like this. “Fawn, I am so excited,” exclaimed one of my recent awesome graduates. Like no kidding! The energy in her voice was infectious. “That’s great!” I responded, hanging on to her words with baited breath. “We met at my dance class. He’s smart. Respectful. And seems genuinely interested in me” How wonderful. I was feeling so positive for this dear client of mine. This could be her guy. After being on the sidelines for a long time, my former client had jumped into the deep end of the pool. She started taking a dance class.
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Desire

“What is it that you really want, Fawn,” my friend asked patiently. Tears started streaming down my face. Life, with seemingly a thousand little things going sideways, had managed to get me into a funk. I was feeling frustrated, overwhelmed and alone. A common ailment, at times, for all of us, right? (Thank God for friends!) When she asked me that question, my heart cracked open like a clamshell. I realized that somehow I had lost my moorings. I had gotten off-track from the things that really mattered deeply to me. When I was growing up, I picked up the
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Is He Your Heroin?

Dear Single, Beautiful, Powerful, Woman: It was an honest but rather scary admission. “He is like heroin to me,” she said again and again. I shuddered inside but was glad at what she was finally seeing. For some time, the symptoms had shown up like flashing neon signs in her language and behavior. “He’s been under so much stress.” Some of her ongoing excuses for his self-indulgent behavior. “I still miss him. His good side. ” Good side? He routinely abused her physically and mentally for years. “I am pretty sure that I am co-dependent!” You think?! “Help!” It’s on
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Six Keys to Finding Love at Any Age

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman, My dear, amazing friend, Hera, is seventy-one years old. Yet, in her heart, she is about twenty-five! Married for two years now to Charlie, she’s going for everything that life has to offer. Hera has come alive! In my last Love Letter to you, Hera spoke candidly about her doubts regarding love. Being at an age when many unmarried women would have resigned themselves to staying single, she talked about finding love. As we revisited her story, I could not help but celebrate and notice a few things about her journey that I think we can
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