Can You Find REAL Love On Line?

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman, I’d like to introduce you to one of my BFFs, Hera. When Hera moved from California to Maine fifteen years ago, many of us were worried about her. In her mid fifties, she quit her successful graphic design job at a leading niche publishing company, put her things in storage and, in her little Miata, headed to the East Coast to start a new life. She found her new home in a small artists community on the coast of Maine and, as Hera has done since the day we met, she dove in wholeheartedly. She
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How to Compete with the “Beautiful People”

Dear Beautiful Powerful Single Woman, Does this sound familiar? Tonight is the night! You have made up your mind. You are going to that local meet-up mixer. Yes! You are putting traction into finding your great guy. Now! Yahoo! You know he is out there somewhere, looking for someone just like you. Your hair looks great. The new outfit is so perfect. You are excited. Hopeful. Expectant And…then you open the door to the restaurant. OMG. The place is crowded with men and women, mostly women. Without warning, your heart starts sinking to the bottom of your new red shoes.
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How to Become a Star

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman: Want to know a little secret? My husband, Steve and I are devoted fans of “American Idol.” It is the one television show that we watch rather religiously. No matter the demands on our time, on Wednesday nights, you will find the two of us parked, ready and waiting, on the couch, with Wallace, knowing the routine so well, snoozing away at our feet. Yes. I confess it’s true. We’re completely hooked. And for good reasons. The show’s three judges, Keith Urban, Jennifer Lopez, and Harry Connick, Jr., are among the best encouragers I have
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So Long, Debbie Downer

Dear Beautiful, Single, Powerful Woman, Do you remember Debbie Downer from Saturday Night Live? She was the hysterically funny but poignantly true character, played by Rachel Dratch. She always saw the negative, always wore a frown and always epitomized pessimism and bad news. Her greatest skill was draining the life out of every party! She even had a theme song: You’re enjoying your day, everything’s going your way, when along comes Debbie Downer. Always there to tell you ’bout a new disease, a car accident, or killer bees. You beg her to spare you, ‘Debbie, please!’ but you can’t stop Debbie
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You’re Winning!

Dear Single Beautiful Powerful Woman, “Congratulations! You’re winning the game! You are winning at the game of life,” Patrick said. “It’s good news.” I’m pretty competitive when it comes to board games with my family. And I LOVE to win. So, these words are music to my ears. Hearing my coach, Patrick, I was intrigued. What did he mean? I knew that his statements were meant to cause me to get honest about myself. Patrick continued, “The question to ask yourself is… ‘If I am winning the game of life, what game am I really playing?’” Hmm. What game am
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Time to Spring Clean Your Heart?

Dear Beautiful, Fabulous, Powerful Single Woman, Spring has definitely sprung here in northern California. (Just ask my Wisteria vines.) For me, besides my gardens, that means rolling up my sleeves with Steve to get our spring cleaning done! Just next week we have fourteen people, family and friends, descending on our home for our annual Passover Seder. But right now, my house feels like a mess. Everywhere I turn, I see winter’s dust and Wallace’s dog hair. Clutter everywhere. Now. Pause for a second with me. Imagine if I did absolutely nothing. How would my friends and guests feel when they walked inside
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Time to Say Your Vows

Dear Beautiful, Fabulous, Powerful Single Woman, I want to share a little-applied secret with you. It is a life-changing tool that is guaranteed to wonderfully prepare you for committed relationship with a man and (here’s the great news!) it doesn’t require that you go on a diet, spends years in counseling or even try to fix something that happened years ago. What is does require, however, is some sincere soul searching (which I can help you with!) What am I talking about? Simply this.  Vows. (What?) Vows. That you make to yourself, first and foremost. Let me explain. In a
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Clarity is Power

Dear Beautiful, Powerful, Single Woman, Clarity. We talk a lot about clarity here in the BreakThrough Into Love community because being clear about ourselves and about the kind of person we are seeking is like those bright white lines on the road ….the ones that keep us out of the proverbial ditch. In this light, I absolutely love what renowned life coach Tony Robbins has said about his own journey looking for love, one that he eventually found in Sage, his wife of sixteen years. Here’s an excerpt from a Q&A interview of Tony and Sage about their relationship. SAGE:
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Friend, Please Open My Valentine to You

Dear Beautiful Powerful Single Woman, Remember when you were little… and Valentine’s Day rolled around? If your childhood was anything like mine, February 14th was utterly and absolutely fun. It was a day filled with little cards in crisp white envelopes, cupcakes with a decadent amount of frosting and those tiny heart-shaped candies, the ones with the words, “Love You,” “Hugs” and “Be Mine” on top. As a child, Valentine’s Day had something for everyone. Mom. Dad. Siblings. Teacher. The classroom. Even that freckled-face boy who teased you way too much because (yeah) he kind-of, sort-of liked you. But we
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Blowing Through Stop Signs

Dear Beautiful Fabulous Single Woman, The drive to love and be loved is an extremely strong motivator! Especially as we approach another Valentines Day! So strong, in fact, that it can cause us to do some rather wonky things. So wonky that, if we stepped back and saw our behavior objectively, we would probably firmly instruct ourselves to take a time out. Pronto! But we don’t. Instead, we yield to that urgent, got-to-have-it-now, longing to be with someone and, as a result, we end up plowing through stop signs! (Spoiler alert! That is why it is a great idea to
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