How you treat yourself sets the example for how others will treat you.
When we abuse ourselves mentally, emotionally and physically, we unconsciously tell the world that this is the proper way to treat us. Our inner conversation will attract someone who agrees with it. Like it or not, when you have a negative perception of yourself, others are going to treat you with negativity.
When we decide that we truly are valuable, and choose to focus on everything we love about ourselves we start treating ourselves with love and respect. This teaches others that this is how we are to be treated and loved.
And it attracts people who will treat us this way.
My friend buys herself a bouquet of flowers every week. Every time she looks at them it fills her heart with joy knowing that she loved herself enough to do this, and knowing that she is practicing for the partner who is coming to her.
My client took herself on an exotic vacation. At the beach, she ceremonially released and forgave her ex-fiance who had hurt her so deeply. Then she recited vows to herself to love and cherish her own heart for the rest of her life, and to never settle for a man who does not love and cherish her heart in the same way.
Our inner conversation will attract someone who agrees with it. And as a bonus, when we become our own best lover, we’re no longer desperate or needy, we can take our time and be choosy in a relationship because we enjoy our own company.
"People have noticed that I've been much happier lately and more confident. I get excited talking to my friends about it. I like the practice at the end of each lesson. I can read it but when I put it into practice, it sticks.." (Getting married Summer 2014!)
"I'm feeling soooooooo much better!!!! I feel free and open! I owe a debt of gratitude to you. Our work together was a big help in me getting my joy and happiness back. I'm at a point where I don't mind waiting and I'm excited about what's next. I have a lot more clarity and I no longer feel the need to settle for what I know isn't good for me."